If you are having trouble getting people to listen to you, you are not alone. Or are you? If you find yourself constantly cast as an outsider of a group, there are two possibilities. The first is that the group you are trying to connect with is closed – indicating it is experience Groupthink or that there are underlying organizational culture issues. If this is the case, it’s time to leave. On the other hand, the group may just appear to be closed… to you. Why? Have yo ever considered it is because you aren’t building relationships?
If you want to be part of a group, or contribute to it, you have to pay the entrance fee. The entrance fee is time and energy building relationships with those in the group. The group is not going to be interested in your opinion, even if you are right and they are wrong. They want to know you first. Can they trust you? Are you vested in what happens after you give your opinion? Do you have integrity? I’m sure you’ve heard this before, but it bears repeating here:
People don’t care how much you know
Until they know how much you care
All the best!
All the time!