Category Archives: Control Your Destiny

Letting go the past… Planning for what you can…


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Have you ever had a time when you did something you regretted and wish you could live that one moment, that one second, over again? Or looking down the road in the other direction, have you ever worried about what was coming down the track, trying to plan for the future? Things like who you’re going to marry, what your career will look like 10 years from now, what your kids are going to become, how you’re going to retire or what your health will be? Reflecting on the past, or planning for the future is healthy, but worrying about it is not.  If you’re a worrier… read on…

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Top 5 Secrets To Living Life

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I was sitting here sipping my coffee and wanted to watch something inspirational. I wondered what the top inspirational songs were so I googled it, and found that like life, the answer depends on who you listen to. I ended up listening to Susan Boyle’s 2009 audition on Britain’s Got Talent. As I looked at the various lists I found most of them dealt with just a few topics. Hopes. Dreams. Inner Strength. Forgiveness. It made me pause to think about life and ask, what are people are looking for? If the list of songs I found are any indication, people are looking for ways to get through life. We are looking for ways to get to the finish line and know that it all matters. We all want to live a life worth living. We want to be happy. We want to be successful. The question is, how do we get there?

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How To Reenter the Workforce – Five Tips to success

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Are you looking for work, or thinking about reentering the workforce after spending some time away from the daily grind? Perhaps you took some time off to pursue a business venture, raise your kids at home or have to find work due to a change in your financial situation. Whatever the case, reentering the workforce can be difficult in the best of cases. Here are five tips to help you succeed.

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How To Find Courage

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Are you facing some seemingly insurmountable obstacles in your life? Having problems at work? Is your boss abusive? Are you in a seemingly hopeless relationship? Finances keeping you down? Perhaps you are having difficulty with your kids or just finding your way through life. Whatever it may be, you can find the courage to deal with it. Your situation may not go change, but your outlook can.  Continue reading How To Find Courage

How to Succeed Financially For Young Adults

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I’ve been thinking about this for awhile as I watch the friends of my son and daughter enter their 20s and graduate from college. With all the uncertainty out there, what advice can I give to them as they begin their journey into adulthood? If you’re in your 20s or early 30s, or know someone who is, read on for some valuable tips. Continue reading How to Succeed Financially For Young Adults

Top 10 Ways to Prepare for an Interview

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So you have an interview coming up and aren’t sure what to do. Perhaps you’re 18 and you’ve never interviewed before. Maybe you’re just graduating and have to prepare for your first “real” interview. Or, you might be 45 and looking for work for the first time in 20 years and don’t know what to do. We’ll, if you have an interview coming up, you should find something helpful here.

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Outstanding Leadership and Career Personality Assessment

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Every now and then I like to take an assessment of my leadership skills as a reminder of both my strengths and weaknesses. I recently took one at TeamTechnology and would highly recommend it to anyone who is searching for a new career or interested in leadership development. The assessment is based on Myers-Briggs and the Keirsey Temperament Sorter. The results are very in depth, AND the test is inexpensive and quickly obtained.

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How To Manage Your Time in a Multitasking World

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While teaching a project management class last night, we got into a discussion about social media, technology and how communicating can overwhelm you due to the many ways we now communicate. Many of the younger (under 30) students said that they had a hard time managing their communications because of the myriad of ways that people communicate today. It was not too long ago that people joked about being addicted to the “crackberry”, but that was just the tip of the iceberg. Today we communicate by E-mail (old school), texting, instant messaging, phone calls (really old school), twitter and other social media tools. These make us more accessible than ever before, and if you’re not careful, you’ll find yourself texting, twittering, instant messaging and emailing all at the same time. With all these demands for your time coming at you at once, it can be overwhelming. Here are some tips to getting your life back under control.

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To Enjoy Life – Expect the Unexpected

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I was taking a walk during lunch the other day near downtown Sacramento. As I was walking, I looked up and saw… oranges! Later during my walk along the river, I looked down and saw turtles! Ok, some of you may think I’m losing my mind. But I was having a trying day and was in a sour mood. So, when these little things came along, they just lifted my spirits. I wasn’t expecting to find an orange tree in downtown Sacramento. I wasn’t expecting to see turtles basking in the sun. Then I started to think, why don’t I expect the unexpected in other areas of my life?

As I think about life, many of us expect… the expected. When things are tough, we expect them to get worse. We get in the habit of looking at the ordinary and get used to living in mediocrity. The oranges and the turtles reminded me that life can also throw beautiful things your way, when you least expect it. The thing is, you have to stop what you’re doing, and take a look around you. If I hadn’t looked up, I wouldn’t have seen the oranges. They were there all the time. I even walked by them on a walk the other day, and didn’t even notice them. I’ve also been down the river before, so I probably have walked by turtles basking in the sun before.

The point – if you’re having a bad day, or a bad time. Stop. Look up. Take a walk. Open your eyes. God gives us gifts every day – and we often overlook them.

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Leaders – You Can’t Always Win – Facing the No Win Scenario

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For you Star Trek fans, I’m sure you’re familiar with the Kobayashi Maru scenario. In both the original Star Trek series and the movie that was released in 2010, Kirk faced a computer simulation developed by Spock while at Starfleet Academy. The simulation was created as a “no win” scenario to teach the cadets that there could be a time where there is no way to win. That nothing you could do would lead to victory.

As leaders, not just in the military, we must understand that winning may not always be an option. As a leader, how you deal with this scenario will determine the direction of your career. You will notice that while you may face a no-win scenario, that doesn’t mean you must admit defeat. If you are facing defeat, follow this link – Overcoming Defeat. If you appear to be facing a no-win scenario, here’s what you should be doing. Continue reading Leaders – You Can’t Always Win – Facing the No Win Scenario