While working with a group of high school students, I asked them if lying was acceptable. Without exception, they all said no – lying is wrong. Most of you probably agree and judging by their websites, all businesses agree that lying is not an ethical thing to do. On a recent survey of business websites, including those of Fortune 500 companies, I commonly found core values like honesty and integrity. Not a single website suggested that the company told the truth only part of the time. Continue reading Doing the Right Thing – A Practical Guide
I’d like to take credit for the title, but as you can see Thomas Edison beat me to it. As you go about making your resolutions for the New Year, have you thought about how to actually succeed at them? If you use the 80/20 rule – only 20% of people will set themselves apart by taking a chance and setting some goals this year. Of those 20%, only 20% will achieve them. For you math geniuses, that amounts to just 4% of the total (I had to use a calculator). That’s a pretty small percentage isn’t it? When you think about it, most of the worlds wealth resides in the top few percentage points of the population. I would guess that the world’s wealthiest people are in the 4% that are setting goals this year AND achieving them. So, how do you set yourself up with the best chance at achieving your goals?
Continue reading Dreams and Goals without Execution = Hallucination
I was sitting here sipping my coffee and wanted to watch something inspirational. I wondered what the top inspirational songs were so I googled it, and found that like life, the answer depends on who you listen to. I ended up listening to Susan Boyle’s 2009 audition on Britain’s Got Talent. As I looked at the various lists I found most of them dealt with just a few topics. Hopes. Dreams. Inner Strength. Forgiveness. It made me pause to think about life and ask, what are people are looking for? If the list of songs I found are any indication, people are looking for ways to get through life. We are looking for ways to get to the finish line and know that it all matters. We all want to live a life worth living. We want to be happy. We want to be successful. The question is, how do we get there?
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Are you facing some seemingly insurmountable obstacles in your life? Having problems at work? Is your boss abusive? Are you in a seemingly hopeless relationship? Finances keeping you down? Perhaps you are having difficulty with your kids or just finding your way through life. Whatever it may be, you can find the courage to deal with it. Your situation may not go change, but your outlook can. Continue reading How To Find Courage
I’ve been thinking about this for awhile as I watch the friends of my son and daughter enter their 20s and graduate from college. With all the uncertainty out there, what advice can I give to them as they begin their journey into adulthood? If you’re in your 20s or early 30s, or know someone who is, read on for some valuable tips. Continue reading How to Succeed Financially For Young Adults
Every now and then I like to take an assessment of my leadership skills as a reminder of both my strengths and weaknesses. I recently took one at TeamTechnology and would highly recommend it to anyone who is searching for a new career or interested in leadership development. The assessment is based on Myers-Briggs and the Keirsey Temperament Sorter. The results are very in depth, AND the test is inexpensive and quickly obtained.
All the best!
One of my most popular posts has been on how to “get”other people’s respect. It may be a spouse, coworker or boss, but the question is the same. So is respect something you “get” or is it something you earn? A couple of things to think about…
1. Respect must be earned. If you have integrity, work hard and are diligent about what you do and how you behave, you will earn respect.
2. If you follow my advice and are still not respected, there are a few things to think about. First, this person you are trying to win over might be the problem, not you. Some people have unreasonable expectations. What can you do if this is the case? You either accept it or run for the door. The other question you may need to ask yourself is do YOU respect yourself? Is there something that you can’t forgive yourself for, or problems with your self-image? If you can’t respect yourself, why should anyone else?
If you find yourself here, don’t worry. Just keep asking the question and try to become better at living a life with honor and integrity. Learn to love yourself!
All the best!
All the time!
Ok – I’m plagiarising. But how can you change a classic? After 15 years, I’m rereading Dale Carnegie’s classic piece of work, How To Win Friends and Influence People. What can I learn from something first published in 1937? Well… a lot. If you haven’t read this, or if you read it a long time ago, I highly recommend you crack open the covers of the book, or turn on your e-reader, and dive in. It will change your life.
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So… it happened again. You’re at work, trying to make things happen, and your boss doesn’t listen. Or if she’s listening, she either ignores you or runs over you. You think you’re a good leader. You have a proven track record. You get results. Yet for some reason your boss just doesn’t acknowledge your capabilities. The result? You end up frustrated. Your boss ends up frustrated. At times you’re not even sure if you can show up for another day of work. What are your options and what should you do?
Continue reading The Perils of Leadership – When Leaders Collide
Last night I volunteered at a Career Coaching event at Bayside of Granite Bay. The event supported the Career Coaching program for those in transition, and there were 50+ job seekers there. For those in the Sacramento-Roseville-Rocklin area, I highly recommend it. They’ve successfully helped over 200 people find their next career. Although affiliated with the church, this is a non-evangelical event. Meaning you can walk in the door without getting preached to. The point is to help people in need get back on their feet.
I’ve done this before both at the church and other groups, and am always struck by the high caliber people who are for whatever reason unemployed. If you find yourself in this predicament, take heart, it is only temporary. Having said that – I do also come across those who I know will struggle to find their next job. If you’ve been unemployed for over 6 months, here are 5 things you need to consider.
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