Generic advice is always… well… generic. There are not many things that work in every situation. Having said that, I think the advice is sound… within reason. I also blogged about making a marriage work and think I also need a posting on what wives should do to gain their husband’s respect!

I completely understand what you’re saying and unfortunately I’m sure you’re not alone. By doing the 10 things above, you can be sure that you’re doing something positive to making a marriage work. However, you also need to have a partner who is reasonable. Making a marriage work takes two people with commitment. Not just one.

Having said all that… you may need to work on some things yourself. Being nice doesn’t necessarily mean being a doormat. You may need to work on holding your wife accountable. If you want some changes, I suggest you and your wife go get some counselling – don’t try to go it alone.

I wish you all the best!
JT

One of the points that John makes is that things change. Your business changes, your customers change, expectations change, employees change, project teams change and management changes. With all of these human elements involved in every project, it is a tribute to project teams that they succeed at all.

Project Management as we know it today was cultivated from the building of US Navy ships during WWI and then adopted to business in the 60′s to help streamline processes just as it did for the ship building business.

However, the process of building a ship from the original design and blueprint to completion does not change much. What was originally designed, was usually very close to the final product when finished. Furthermore, when building a ship, the exact design, blueprint and project plans are virtually unchanged when building another ship of the same type. Consistent and repeatable…WOW, what a great business concept!

For software and business projects, the ship building process is not a good project management process to follow, “cause things change.” And on large and long projects “things change” even more, and for good reasons.

John points out that large projects have a huge risk of failure and smaller/shorter ones have a better chance of success…which my experience tells me the same. So, one solution is to divide your large projects into smaller/shorter ones that can be accomplished quickly; this will give you faster time to market and better success rates.

There are a lot of tools and processes that can help your team with these concepts. Some that I like are Enterprise Architecture and Agile/SCRUM.

Good Luck!

Thanks for sharing your experiences also. Funny, I teach a large group of kids at our church, and this month’s lesson is on forgiveness. I thought about it a lot as I taught the lesson. I can totally relate to what you’re experiencing. Thanks again for sharing….